What to Do If You Are Being Stalked

June 5, 2017 · by RLF Attorneys · in

Our previous article detailed the warning signs of a stalker. If you think you have are being stalked, then you need to take action. There are a number of strategies you can use to protect yourself.
Be clear. Before taking any legal action, tell the person in clear language that you do not want their attention. Be blunt. Something as simple as, “Stay away from me!” or “You make me uncomfortable; I don’t want to be around you” should be enough. Note that this is not likely to stop the stalker – it simply states your disinterest and discomfort. Do this once and once only, then avoid any further deliberate communication.
Avoid contact. Once you have made it clear that you do not want the stalker’s attention, stop interacting with them. Do not answer the door if they knock. Block their number from calling or texting you. Avoid places you know he/she frequents. Even attempts to reinforce your disinterest could be misconstrued as a desire to communicate.
Tell other people. Let family, friends, and neighbors know about the situation. Give them the name and description of your stalker and ask them to direct the person away from you or, if need be, call the police.
Travel with others. Whenever possible, do not go out alone. Carpool or take mass transit to work. In addition to the safety factor, this will provide a witness to any future harassment or aggressive behavior.
Take notes. Document everything. Save emails and texts, and make notes of the times that the stalker contacted you and by what method. This will help the police and judge understand the gravity of the situation.
In New Jersey, stalking is a fourth-degree crime and is punishable by 18 months in prison and up to $10,000 in fines. A second conviction of stalking the same person is charged as a third-degree crime, and can lead to three to five years in prison and up to $15,000 in fines.
Getting convicted of stalking is also grounds for a restraining order. A person who has a restraining order against them and is convicted of stalking can be charged with a third-degree crime.
If you or a loved one would like to file a restraining order, has been charged with violating a restraining order, or wishes to have a restraining order against you removed, you need the advice of an expert attorney. The lawyers of the Rosenblum Law Firm have extensive experience handling cases involving the application or removal restraining orders in New Jersey. Email the Rosenblum Law Firm or call 888-815-3649 for a free consultation about your case today.